A Mother’s Remarkable Communication with her Deceased Son
A month ago, a woman wrote me about her experiences with her son in the afterlife. I was so taken by her spontaneous abilities that I asked for permission to post her story. Although I have changed her name to preserve privacy, the words are otherwise hers.
My name is Georgia and my son died by suicide on April 18, 2012. He was 31 years old and a gifted architect and just a fun guy. He was married but had no children. As you can imagine, losing him was devastating to me and to our family. We were shocked and in total disbelief that this has happened to us
The first contact I had with Ben was on May 10, 2012. I was lying in bed still awake and thinking about getting up when I heard his voice. It was as clear a bell. I could even feel his breath in my ear. All he said was, “Hey Mom.” Now, this was the way he always began his voice mail messages to me. I was so happy to hear from him!!!! A week went by and again I was lying in bed in the early morning and felt him touch my shoulder. I started having monthly dreams about Ben from that moment on.
The dreams are very clear, not disjointed as some dreams can be…a real conversation between the two of us. In the first dream he told me he never died. We both cried and held one another. Again in June, I had another dream around the same time of the month. This time I was able to hug him and could feel his skin and the sweat on his shirt. We hugged and cried then too. July, another dream, more crying and hugging. Every month around the same time, another dream. I keep a journal and, of course, write every detail down. I am so glad I did!
The best dream happened on February 12, 2013. I was actually awakened by a bright light in my bedroom, very bright colors of pulsing blue and white light. I watched the light pulse on the bedroom wall and it took the form of an outline of an angel, a very primitive angel with no face. I knew immediately that it was 
Ben’s angel!!! I tried to take pictures of it with my cellphone camera but could not capture the image. I then went back to sleep only to be awakened again by an even more beautiful light of purple and blue surrounded by a gold glowing halo. It was just stunningly beautiful! I fell back to sleep again and then Ben came to me in my dream and said to me, “Mom, our bond can never be broken. I am always with you.”
I then saw his angel again, more defined this time. The angel’s head was bent down and a red heart pulsed in her chest area. Then butterflies starting coming out of her and she disappeared. I woke up sobbing with joy!!!!
I then had three dreams about him in the month of March, one in April around his anniversary date and the last one in May. No dreams in June or so far this month and I miss them so much! I have had other types of contact with him though. In my office desk drawer when I was looking for a pen, I found an old birthday card he had sent me. Twice I found a small picture of him on the kitchen floor and counter on the exact dates we were to have dinner with his friends from college.
I painted the picture of the angel. It turned out beautiful. I just want and need the dreams to continue. He feels so far away right now…why has he stopped coming to me in my dreams????
I wrote Georgia back a congratulatory note, summing it up with advice—“Here’s your challenge. If you want to know why the dreams have stopped, ASK BEN!!!! Don’t full around with secondary sources, go to the true source. You’ll get your answer.”
She wrote back immediately that she had a gut feeling about why the dreams stopped. She believed it was because she was experiencing anger towards her son for leaving. She even admitted swearing at him now and again, not forgetting to add, of course, that she loved him and would always be there for him.
Along with this communication she attached a picture of Ben’s, a real poster boy for a gorgeous All-American guy, and her charming drawing of his angel, posted above.
My response to her gut feeling was sharp and to the point: “I need to tell you right now that genuine—and justified—anger is probably the fastest, surest way to make contact. You may believe that your anger is blocking him coming to you in your dreams, but that is no more than a belief of yours. Such a belief, however, is enough to block contact. I’ve worked a great deal with people who have taken their own lives. In almost every case they feel terrible remorse for the pain they’ve caused. Ben may need to unburden himself with you.
At my suggestion, she began reading my book, The Last Frontier, especially the chapters where I explain how to communicate with the departed and what to expect.
Within three days, she wrote back again, clearly excited.
I have been practicing the principles and suggestions from the last chapter in your book and I think it has opened up even more communication…. I felt his presence yesterday afternoon and my whole body tingled. I started to speak to him right then and there, and that night he appeared in my dream!!!!!
I asked him why he didn’t tell me he was troubled or needed my help. He said, “I tried Mom, I just couldn’t.” He said he was worried that he didn’t have a “job.” I told him, “just come home…you can always come home.” Then we took a ride in his car and had fun laughing and feeling the wind whip through our hair. He was wearing his grey sweatshirt and had a smile that would light up a room!
WOW!
Hopefully, more to come!
I’m sure there is a lot more to come from Georgia. Stay posted!
Meko
2017-08-16 @ 12:28 AM
Hi im deaf my oldest son was only 21 years old he died in 2015 committed suicide losing my son hurt me it like my soul turn black or stab in my soul no mother suppose to bury their childs.. I miss him everyday wish i could bring him back but i can’t.. His beautiful smile always light our room up everybody love him so much he was a good man, father to his beautiful daughter, handsome son, wonderful brother smh i would love to have communicate with my dead son snd see him again. I hope i dont sound crazy but i miss my son very much please help me how to communicate with my dead son.
Julia
2017-10-08 @ 1:54 PM
Dear Meko, there is nothing so difficult as losing a child. You don’t sound in the least crazy. Go to the bottom of my homepage for tips on how to communicated. I give much more information in my book, in fact, several chapters, just on communicating alone. Let me know what happens!
Julia
Cherie Ash
2017-09-06 @ 5:40 PM
I lost my son to cancer February 17, 2009. He was 20 yrs. old. I have signs of my son about 3 times a year.
Jenny
2017-11-21 @ 5:26 PM
I lost my 43 year old son to suicide 7 weeks ago
I had a vivid image of him recently as I was waking up one morning. He was stood outside my bedroom window, he looked sad, no smile, just stared at me. I wondered if he is still angry with me as the letter he left me almost blamed me for him taking his life
Julia
2017-12-02 @ 11:35 AM
Jenny, I’m so sorry I didn’t get back to you earlier. Typically, people who take their own lives deeply regret it. Younger people often commit suicide to get back at someone. However, once they pass over, all of them, in my experience, realize that their reasons were either invalid or just stupid. They are also shocked at the violence they did against themselves. In my opinion, the look on your son’s face describes perfectly that regret. It also speaks as an apology. Do not take the blame!
Nothing is harder than losing a child other than losing a child by suicide. Please look at the bottom of my homepage for short tips on communicating with him.
Julia
Julia
2018-03-07 @ 8:27 PM
Dear Jenny, he is no doubt sound that he took his life. Most people who die by their own hand are upset afterward by the violence they did to themselves. Furthermore, the suddenly realize that they are responsible, not you! Try communicating with him. Go to the bottom of my home page for tips on how to do it. Or read my book, The Last Frontier, for a very in-depth treatment of afterlife communication. Believe me, if he ever blamed you, he now recognizes his mistake. Warmly, Julia
Jenny
2018-06-05 @ 12:31 PM
Hi Julia,
Thankyou for your reply. I have found I can communicate with him when I get deeply relaxed in the early hours of the morning, using telepathy. I keep a written record of the chats we have and he is deeply sorry for the hurt he has caused me. I have had some excellent messages through mediums also confirming he is ok.
Julia Assante
2018-07-11 @ 10:41 AM
Terrific! But you probably don’t need mediums anymore!
Lorraine Milligan
2018-02-04 @ 8:37 AM
My son Bruce died in September 2015. He had been in a vegatitive state for 29 years after a car accident where he was a back seat passenger. I miss him so much and worry that I always did the right thing over those years of caring for him.
Julia
2018-03-07 @ 8:13 PM
Lorraine you don’t have to wonder. Just ask him! Go to the bottom of my home page for tips on how to communicate with the other side. In my book, The Last Frontier, I wrote 4 chapters on that alone, if you want to go deeper. I know you can do it. So many mothers have had life-changing success!
Juan Valeriano
2018-06-13 @ 10:06 PM
Hi, we lost our son Samuel (Sammy) due to a brain tumor on 21 Oct 2017, he was 16 year old. During his short life Sammy went through severe medical problems. When he was only three years old, he was diagnosed with a brain tumor to the cerebellum. Sammy became mentally and physically disabled. Although he had many limitations, he surprised us many times because of his intelligence and fighting spirit. He was a very sweet child who with his smile lit the room. He loved his special needs school Kallpa, here in Peru. We miss him infinitely but I know I will see him again.
Julia Assante
2018-07-11 @ 10:38 AM
Dear Juan, I am so sorry for your loss.
Why don’t you try contacting him now? You will see him not as he was in the flesh but as he is now, without any physical problems–a truly eternal being!
Juan Valeriano
2018-07-11 @ 2:49 PM
Hi Julia, thank you for your reply – I was surprised to see it. Thank you so much. I am always thinking about my Sammy and how much I miss him, he was my best friend. I am deployed in a base camp in the jungle of Peru and I started writing him every day. We lost 3 children – Dominic he was a stillbirth baby, Camille she passed when my son Sammy first was diagnosed with the brain tumor and he was hospitalized in Miami, Camille was born with a kidney malformation, and passed a day later. My wife was pregnant again but we found out that the fetus had the same problem Camille had, so we decided for an abortion because we could not bare the pain again. In my mind and named him Saul. Reference to Sammy he never comes in my dreams but he sends many signs that he is around our family, specially with his grandparents. Well thank you for your comments. Regards, Juan
Julia Assante
2019-02-09 @ 12:53 PM
Truthfully Juan, your losses have overwhelmed me. I am so sorry!
Juan Valeriano
2018-07-26 @ 8:12 PM
July, could you please explain how to see my son Sammy now?
Thank you,
Juan
Julia Assante
2019-02-09 @ 12:51 PM
Juan, ask Sammy to show himself as he is NOW. Wait until you get a picture in your mind’s eye. If it is moving, you’ve got him. Focus on that picture until you feel the connection happen–an “in” feeling. Stay completely focused. Ask questions and wait until he answers you.