A Mother’s Remarkable Communication with her Deceased Son
A month ago, a woman wrote me about her experiences with her son in the afterlife. I was so taken by her spontaneous abilities that I asked for permission to post her story. Although I have changed her name to preserve privacy, the words are otherwise hers.
My name is Georgia and my son died by suicide on April 18, 2012. He was 31 years old and a gifted architect and just a fun guy. He was married but had no children. As you can imagine, losing him was devastating to me and to our family. We were shocked and in total disbelief that this has happened to us
The first contact I had with Ben was on May 10, 2012. I was lying in bed still awake and thinking about getting up when I heard his voice. It was as clear a bell. I could even feel his breath in my ear. All he said was, “Hey Mom.” Now, this was the way he always began his voice mail messages to me. I was so happy to hear from him!!!! A week went by and again I was lying in bed in the early morning and felt him touch my shoulder. I started having monthly dreams about Ben from that moment on.
The dreams are very clear, not disjointed as some dreams can be…a real conversation between the two of us. In the first dream he told me he never died. We both cried and held one another. Again in June, I had another dream around the same time of the month. This time I was able to hug him and could feel his skin and the sweat on his shirt. We hugged and cried then too. July, another dream, more crying and hugging. Every month around the same time, another dream. I keep a journal and, of course, write every detail down. I am so glad I did!
The best dream happened on February 12, 2013. I was actually awakened by a bright light in my bedroom, very bright colors of pulsing blue and white light. I watched the light pulse on the bedroom wall and it took the form of an outline of an angel, a very primitive angel with no face. I knew immediately that it was Ben’s angel!!! I tried to take pictures of it with my cellphone camera but could not capture the image. I then went back to sleep only to be awakened again by an even more beautiful light of purple and blue surrounded by a gold glowing halo. It was just stunningly beautiful! I fell back to sleep again and then Ben came to me in my dream and said to me, “Mom, our bond can never be broken. I am always with you.”
I then saw his angel again, more defined this time. The angel’s head was bent down and a red heart pulsed in her chest area. Then butterflies starting coming out of her and she disappeared. I woke up sobbing with joy!!!!
I then had three dreams about him in the month of March, one in April around his anniversary date and the last one in May. No dreams in June or so far this month and I miss them so much! I have had other types of contact with him though. In my office desk drawer when I was looking for a pen, I found an old birthday card he had sent me. Twice I found a small picture of him on the kitchen floor and counter on the exact dates we were to have dinner with his friends from college.
I painted the picture of the angel. It turned out beautiful. I just want and need the dreams to continue. He feels so far away right now…why has he stopped coming to me in my dreams????
I wrote Georgia back a congratulatory note, summing it up with advice—“Here’s your challenge. If you want to know why the dreams have stopped, ASK BEN!!!! Don’t full around with secondary sources, go to the true source. You’ll get your answer.”
She wrote back immediately that she had a gut feeling about why the dreams stopped. She believed it was because she was experiencing anger towards her son for leaving. She even admitted swearing at him now and again, not forgetting to add, of course, that she loved him and would always be there for him.
Along with this communication she attached a picture of Ben’s, a real poster boy for a gorgeous All-American guy, and her charming drawing of his angel, posted above.
My response to her gut feeling was sharp and to the point: “I need to tell you right now that genuine—and justified—anger is probably the fastest, surest way to make contact. You may believe that your anger is blocking him coming to you in your dreams, but that is no more than a belief of yours. Such a belief, however, is enough to block contact. I’ve worked a great deal with people who have taken their own lives. In almost every case they feel terrible remorse for the pain they’ve caused. Ben may need to unburden himself with you.
At my suggestion, she began reading my book, The Last Frontier, especially the chapters where I explain how to communicate with the departed and what to expect.
Within three days, she wrote back again, clearly excited.
I have been practicing the principles and suggestions from the last chapter in your book and I think it has opened up even more communication…. I felt his presence yesterday afternoon and my whole body tingled. I started to speak to him right then and there, and that night he appeared in my dream!!!!!
I asked him why he didn’t tell me he was troubled or needed my help. He said, “I tried Mom, I just couldn’t.” He said he was worried that he didn’t have a “job.” I told him, “just come home…you can always come home.” Then we took a ride in his car and had fun laughing and feeling the wind whip through our hair. He was wearing his grey sweatshirt and had a smile that would light up a room!
WOW!
Hopefully, more to come!
I’m sure there is a lot more to come from Georgia. Stay posted!
Julia
2016-05-10 @ 9:08 PM
Dear Sushma, Please forgive me for not writing you back sooner. I can hardly imagine the pain you are in. I think you need to make contact with him yourself. Look on my homepage at the bottom for how-to tips. Or you can book a session with me and I’ll walk you through it. Children usually do very well after death, by the way. I am far more worried about you!
Julia
Munish
2016-09-07 @ 10:22 AM
I lost my only toddler son who was eighteen months of age. He died of an allergic reaction to a hepatitis vaccination whereby he started having difficulty in breathing the very next day. The doctors could not diagnose the cause nor could I at that time. The condition of my toddler deteriorated after he was put on a ventilator and as one of the lungs got damaged in the process. It was extremely painful losing him.I did not want to live and decided to commit suicide but delayed it due to one or another reason……..I now want him to reborn in my family as my son…….Is it possible?….. please guide me….what should I do…..I am helpless…..and in deep agony.
Julia
2016-09-07 @ 12:01 PM
Dear Munish, I can understand the agony you are in. Suicide will not help and there is no guarantee that you will see you son on the other side either. But you can communicate with him. Many mothers of done this and found it life-changing. Look at my tips at the bottom of my homepage to start. You must also work through the guilt. Rest assured, no one dies without a deep inner agreement to do so.
Sometimes a child who dies traumatically or who dies in the womb or just after birth will come back to the same family. Doing so is not always an ideal situation for many reasons. It is his decision, not yours. A better way to get over the agony would be first, to work out the guilt, perhaps with a professional and second to communicate. You may see your son growing up. Even a toddler will have the ability to communicate like an adult. You might also consider going to a specialist who will put you in direct contact with your child. For you direct contact would be the way to go. Going to a medium may cause more distress, as though you lost your child a second time once the session is over. The specialists work in a relatively new field called Induced After-Death Communication Therapy. They do marvelous work. Here’s the link: http://www.induced-adc.com/
Go to the site and find a therapist near you. They use special techniques to get you into contact.
I am so very sorry for the pain you are in. Do not forget, in the meantime, that your son is no doubt in great shape now while you are suffering.
Julia
Munish
2016-09-08 @ 3:54 PM
Thanks Julia for your advice…I am grateful. Can you please suggest me dome therapist in India…Thanks…..regards Munish
Julia Assante
2019-05-19 @ 10:55 AM
Dear Munish, I have no idea really. Look up Induced After-Death Communication Therapy. The website has a list of specialized therapist around the world.
Munish
2016-09-08 @ 3:55 PM
Thanks Julia for your advice…I am grateful. Can you please suggest me some therapist in India…Thanks…..regards Munish
Julia
2016-09-09 @ 9:03 PM
I wish I could. There may be an Induced After-death Communication Therapist there. They are now all over the world. Did you look at the link I sent you?
Milli
2017-02-04 @ 9:39 AM
my 16 year old son died of suicide. I can not communicate with him. I do not want to live either. I do not know why he did so. Missing him terribly. What to do. It has been 10 days that he is dead
Julia
2017-03-05 @ 10:40 AM
Milli, there is nothing more painful than what you are going through. Please look at the bottom of my homepage for tips on how to communicate with him. YOU CAN DO IT! Alternatives are making an appointment with a medium. I do that through teleconferencing. Or you could find one through the Forever Family Foundation. Another possibility, which may be the best, is to go to a specialist who will put you in direct contact with your son. You can find out more about this by going to: http://www.induced-adc.com/
My heart hurts for you.
Julia