A Mother’s Remarkable Communication with her Deceased Son
A month ago, a woman wrote me about her experiences with her son in the afterlife. I was so taken by her spontaneous abilities that I asked for permission to post her story. Although I have changed her name to preserve privacy, the words are otherwise hers.
My name is Georgia and my son died by suicide on April 18, 2012. He was 31 years old and a gifted architect and just a fun guy. He was married but had no children. As you can imagine, losing him was devastating to me and to our family. We were shocked and in total disbelief that this has happened to us
The first contact I had with Ben was on May 10, 2012. I was lying in bed still awake and thinking about getting up when I heard his voice. It was as clear a bell. I could even feel his breath in my ear. All he said was, “Hey Mom.” Now, this was the way he always began his voice mail messages to me. I was so happy to hear from him!!!! A week went by and again I was lying in bed in the early morning and felt him touch my shoulder. I started having monthly dreams about Ben from that moment on.
The dreams are very clear, not disjointed as some dreams can be…a real conversation between the two of us. In the first dream he told me he never died. We both cried and held one another. Again in June, I had another dream around the same time of the month. This time I was able to hug him and could feel his skin and the sweat on his shirt. We hugged and cried then too. July, another dream, more crying and hugging. Every month around the same time, another dream. I keep a journal and, of course, write every detail down. I am so glad I did!
The best dream happened on February 12, 2013. I was actually awakened by a bright light in my bedroom, very bright colors of pulsing blue and white light. I watched the light pulse on the bedroom wall and it took the form of an outline of an angel, a very primitive angel with no face. I knew immediately that it was Ben’s angel!!! I tried to take pictures of it with my cellphone camera but could not capture the image. I then went back to sleep only to be awakened again by an even more beautiful light of purple and blue surrounded by a gold glowing halo. It was just stunningly beautiful! I fell back to sleep again and then Ben came to me in my dream and said to me, “Mom, our bond can never be broken. I am always with you.”
I then saw his angel again, more defined this time. The angel’s head was bent down and a red heart pulsed in her chest area. Then butterflies starting coming out of her and she disappeared. I woke up sobbing with joy!!!!
I then had three dreams about him in the month of March, one in April around his anniversary date and the last one in May. No dreams in June or so far this month and I miss them so much! I have had other types of contact with him though. In my office desk drawer when I was looking for a pen, I found an old birthday card he had sent me. Twice I found a small picture of him on the kitchen floor and counter on the exact dates we were to have dinner with his friends from college.
I painted the picture of the angel. It turned out beautiful. I just want and need the dreams to continue. He feels so far away right now…why has he stopped coming to me in my dreams????
I wrote Georgia back a congratulatory note, summing it up with advice—“Here’s your challenge. If you want to know why the dreams have stopped, ASK BEN!!!! Don’t full around with secondary sources, go to the true source. You’ll get your answer.”
She wrote back immediately that she had a gut feeling about why the dreams stopped. She believed it was because she was experiencing anger towards her son for leaving. She even admitted swearing at him now and again, not forgetting to add, of course, that she loved him and would always be there for him.
Along with this communication she attached a picture of Ben’s, a real poster boy for a gorgeous All-American guy, and her charming drawing of his angel, posted above.
My response to her gut feeling was sharp and to the point: “I need to tell you right now that genuine—and justified—anger is probably the fastest, surest way to make contact. You may believe that your anger is blocking him coming to you in your dreams, but that is no more than a belief of yours. Such a belief, however, is enough to block contact. I’ve worked a great deal with people who have taken their own lives. In almost every case they feel terrible remorse for the pain they’ve caused. Ben may need to unburden himself with you.
At my suggestion, she began reading my book, The Last Frontier, especially the chapters where I explain how to communicate with the departed and what to expect.
Within three days, she wrote back again, clearly excited.
I have been practicing the principles and suggestions from the last chapter in your book and I think it has opened up even more communication…. I felt his presence yesterday afternoon and my whole body tingled. I started to speak to him right then and there, and that night he appeared in my dream!!!!!
I asked him why he didn’t tell me he was troubled or needed my help. He said, “I tried Mom, I just couldn’t.” He said he was worried that he didn’t have a “job.” I told him, “just come home…you can always come home.” Then we took a ride in his car and had fun laughing and feeling the wind whip through our hair. He was wearing his grey sweatshirt and had a smile that would light up a room!
WOW!
Hopefully, more to come!
I’m sure there is a lot more to come from Georgia. Stay posted!
Jimbo
2014-06-22 @ 5:06 AM
I sympathize with you all. I lost someone close to me. You will at some point find out that you aren’t communicating with loved ones. They are gone and in peace. You are communicating with demons. They will fool you for as long as you let them. If you are already questioning some things, now you know why. Do not be fooled. I’m sure you know this Julia. For I’m sure you have experienced things that weren’t right. Read the bible.
Julia
2014-06-23 @ 9:58 PM
I am only allowing this comment to initiate discussion. The notion that after-death communication occurs only with demons is so far off from the experiences of mothers in contact with their children. After 40 years, I have never encountered anything that remotely indicates a demon. I feel sorry for people who believe in demons anyway. And if you read the bible, you will see that the one instance of after-death communication recorded brought up the wise king Samuel, who was called divine. No demons here. For our attitudes about after-death communication being demonic, I have written many posts that explain this development, and written about it too in The Last Frontier. Before Judaism of the 7th century BC, the whole ancient world regularly communicated with the dead. It was a part of life, as it should be now.
miss sad
2014-10-19 @ 2:54 AM
I lost my mum suddenly 2 yrs ago. Before she died I was very spiritual and had lots of strange spiritual things happen over the yrs. But since my mum died, I haven’t felt her anywhere. In my dreams she doesn’t want to kiss or cuddle me and when I do dream of her, its distant. I could feel and communicate with other spirits before mum’s death but nothing since. I keep thinking she’s angry with me or just doesn’t want to help me know shes ok.
Julia
2014-10-22 @ 3:04 PM
Dear Jeannie, This sort of distance usually happens when one or both of you have serious unfinished business. What I would highly recommend is to contact her yourself rather than waiting for her to show up in your dreams (which she has probably already done.). At the bottom of my home page you’ll see short directions for how to contact her. Let me know when it happens!
Julia
junju
2015-03-01 @ 4:19 PM
i lost my mom by june 4th 2014.i miz her.i wanna be wid her.i wanna c her.is der any way fa me to reach her?i want her to talkto me.i desparately need my mom:(
Julia
2015-03-03 @ 10:33 AM
Junju, go to the bottom of my homepage and look at the “How to do After-Death Communication” section. Then sit down and contact your mother!
Miria
2015-03-02 @ 1:44 AM
Dear Julia
My seventeen year old son died in a car accident in November of last year. When he passed I was pleased to hear from his friends that he had visited some of them just after his death. All that kept me going after his death was the knowledge that he was with his Creator and with my parents. I went on a quest to understand where he was and came across your website which was of great comfort to me. I learned about after death communication and was thrilled at the prospect of being able to still have a relationship with my son.
It’s been almost four months since he passed and I still haven’t had a visit from him. In the last year of his life, his relationship with me was not always great, however, I am sure he knew he was very much loved by me but being a single mother of three things could get a bit rough.
Could this be the reason why he hasn’t come to visit me and if so is there anything I can do to change this.
Julia
2015-03-03 @ 10:12 AM
You know Miria, I don’t usually ask people to read my book, but in your case it would help. In it is a long chapter on the subtle signs those who have passed use to try and get our attention. Generally, we miss those signs, thinking it’s just our imagination or simply ignoring them. That would be the first step–to learn what those signs are. The second is, don’t wait for him to contact you. You contact him. It’s easy, really, because it is a normal human ability. There is also a long chapter on that in my book, a chapter that is meant to guide you through successful after-death communication. I am sure you will succeed. Many mothers have quite frequent contact with their diseased children, which has changed their lives. You will get to know your son the way he really is! If you still don’t succeed, we can make a phone appointment and I will walk you through it. My objective as a medium is to get YOU in contact so that you have that reference point for ever after and don’t need a medium. YOU ARE A MEDIUM!
Miria
2015-03-03 @ 8:59 PM
Many thanks Julia and yes I will read your book.
Best regards
Miria