A Mother’s Day Message for Grieving Mothers
There is nothing harder to endure than the death of a child. If you have lost a child, your grief is likely to surge on Mother’s Day. As a medium, I have had the privilege of bringing parents together with their children on the other side. I am also privileged to be the recipient of countless reports from mothers who have had spontaneous encounters, signs, dreams, or direct communication with their children and how these events changed their lives.
These experiences convey crucial messages to us from children who have passed. First, they want you to know that they are alive! Not only alive, but better than ever. Most appear to their parents as young adults with a mature ability to communicate that far exceeds our own, even if they died in infancy. They reassure us that their deaths were life plans made before they were conceived. In fact, parents often report that their children had announced their own deaths a day or two before a fatal accident or knew exactly when their infirmity would take them. Once they have passed, they invariably feel sorrow for what you are going through. They want you to know that it was not your fault. There is nothing you could have done to extend their lives.
Bereavement counseling has changed in the last two decades. Previously, counselors advised a complete cut with the deceased. Now they realize that staying close to the deceased minimizes or eliminates grief. New bereavement therapies have even developed that go so far as to induce communication with the departed. Most important, mothers who have discovered on their own how to directly communicate with their children recover quickly from mourning. They know that their relationships have not ended. They know that their child will be with them for the rest of their lives. They know their child is alive, safe, and thriving. They know that they will reunite with their children when they too die. In the meantime, children desperately want their parents to be happy again, to not lose their lives in pain and remorse.
Most of us hold on to memories of a person’s last dying moments. These memories are usually intrusive and cause enormous distress. If you are remembering those moments of your child’s death, especially on Mother’s Day, know that those moments are now insignificant to children on the other side, no more traumatic than getting over any illness. When that memory intrudes, immediately switch to what your intuition tells you of your child’s present condition—vibrant and joyful. It will instantly alleviate your grief. If you should have strong waves of grief chances are high that your child is right by you. Communicate. Close your eyes. See your child’s face in your mind’s eye and speak to your child from your strongest emotion. Ask questions. Get them to tell you what it’s like for them where they are now. You will be surprised! And your grief will transform into euphoria. Once you have broken the fear barrier of afterlife communication, you will be able to make contact again and again. Your loss will become the springboard of a powerful spiritual awakening. That too was part of the plan.
Jane Lee
2013-07-13 @ 4:08 PM
I lost my beloved son (32 yrs) last year on July 15. I am missing him everyday since the day he left me. Sometime the feeling is so intense, no words can describe the grief I am going through. Really wish I could communicate with him. Thank you.
Julia
2013-07-21 @ 6:40 AM
Jane, You can communicate with him. In my book, The Last Frontier, I gibe explicit instructions. There are other techniques you can find online but they may not be as effective as mine. You can communicate! It’s your natural right. And you probably already are in communication without realizing it.
Iva Plummer
2014-02-12 @ 3:50 PM
I lost my son 25 years ago. He was born 2/13/1988 and died 2/15/88. Even though he was an infant when he passed I still picture him as a grown man. A year later God blessed me with another son. Can you please let him know that I miss him so much.Thank you.
Julia
2014-02-12 @ 6:17 PM
Iva, your intuition is guiding you perfectly. Infants are indeed grown adults on the other side. I urge you to make contact with him yourself. It’s a gift we all have.
Susan
2014-09-26 @ 12:01 PM
please help me
Julia
2014-09-26 @ 9:55 PM
Tell me what you need help with.
Yvette
2015-02-25 @ 4:04 AM
My little angel Azalea was born 12/2/14 and on 1/15/2015 she passed away I miss her very much I know that she is no longer suffering and no longer in pain but I just want to be with her, please tell me how can I communicate with her I just want to hear from her! Can you also tell her I love her
Julia
2015-02-26 @ 7:26 PM
Yvette, it’s best if you communicate with her yourself. On my website I tell you how. Anyone can do it.
Barbara Slusher
2015-05-05 @ 3:23 PM
I lost my son Erik Ross April 26 2015, he was 25 years old. I feel like I died that morning. I went to wake him up for breakfast Sunday morning at 7:52. He was unreponsive, so I frantically called 911, but died during the night. I want so badly to speak and see him again. I just dont want to live without, he was my youngest. I have 2 older sons and 1 daughter 8 grandchildren. I love them all dearly. I need help to live for my family.
Julia
2015-05-06 @ 11:18 AM
Oh Barbara, nothing is harder than losing a child. You simply must communicate with him. You must. There are several things you can do. One is to try communication on your own. You will find the how-to quick steps on my homepage at the bottom, or an extended version in my book, The Last Frontier. Another thing you can do is go to an Induced After-death Communication Therapist. Believe it or not, they exist. Using simple techniques they will put you in direct contact with Eric. Look up Allan Botkin’s site for a therapist near you. The third thing you can do is work with me. I have done many, many private session with parents who have lost a child through teleconferencing, which only means we call into the same number at the same time. I would be honored to work with you. Barbara, in any case, you will get the help you need! Your stress levels will only enhance contact, as will the short time that has elapsed since Eric’s passing. Please accept these pitiful e-hugs in the meantime.
Juia